Breaking the Addiction to Please PDF ePub eBook

Books Info:

Breaking the Addiction to Please free pdf Many people are responsible for taking care of an aging parent, an ailing spouse, or a handicapped child and do so out of love, devotion, or obligation, and many others have caretaking occupations in the areas of nursing, social work, counseling, and so on. But there are other less benign caretakers in our midst. These people have an excessive need to be needed, and they assume the caretaking role not out of love, obligation, or choice of profession but due to unconscious motivations over which they have little control. This addiction to pleasing others can be as debilitating as substance addictions. Les Barbanell shows that this addiction, which he calls 'caretaker personality disorder, ' masks psychological conflicts and can be a self-destructive force leading to exhaustion, emptiness, even suicide. Barbanell provides strategies for learning to say no, retraining one's focus from others to oneself, gaining freedom from past traumas and abuse, and learning to express rather than repress feelings in order to find a balance between kindness and a pathological level of selflessness. This book is a must-read for those suffering from the addiction to please, their families, and psychotherapists and counselors who work with them. Praise for Les Barbanell's Removing the Mask of Kindness 'Barbanell delineates the pathological side of selflessness and argues, as the title suggests, that kindness can serve as a psychological mechanism for concealing emotional problems_.The author effectively charts the defining characteristics of a heretofore-unrecognized diagnostic category: caretaker personality disorder (CPD). _Recommended.' -CHOICE 'Les Barbanell reveals a new and shocking defense mechanism that individuals use to hid psychological conflicts. The caretaker personality disorder helps explain why an accommodating, sacrificing individual, who is always concerned with others, can end up miserable and feeling incomplete. A must read for anyone in the helping professions.' -United States Association for Body Psychotherapy Newslette

About Les Barbanell

Les Barbanell is a current faculty member, supervisor and training analyst at the New Jersey Institute for Training in Teaneck, New Jersey. He has published articles on a variety of subjects that include narcissism, selflessness, exercise and sports psychology, adolescence and relationships. He has a general psychotherapy practice in Englewood Cliffs, New Jersey and specializes in the treatment of helping professionals.

Details Book

Author : Les Barbanell
Publisher : Jason Aronson, Inc.
Data Published : 22 December 2009
ISBN : 0765706768
EAN : 9780765706768
Format Book : PDF, Epub, DOCx, TXT
Number of Pages : 120 pages
Age + : 15 years
Language : English
Rating :

Reviews Breaking the Addiction to Please



17 Comments Add a comment




Related eBooks Download


  • Breaking the Addiction to Please free pdfBreaking the Addiction to Please

    Many people are responsible for taking care of an aging parent. an ailing spouse. or a handicapped child and do so out of love. devotion. or obligation. and many others have caretaking occupations in the areas of nursing..


  • Beyond Addiction free pdfBeyond Addiction

    The groundbreaking method that upends current treatment models and "offers collective hope to families of substance abusers" ("Kirkus Reviews"). helping loved ones conquer addiction and compulsion problems through positive reinforcement and kindness--from the leaders in progressive addiction treatment in the US..


  • Removing the Mask of Kindness free pdfRemoving the Mask of Kindness

    Character traits may be used as defenses. or. 'coping mechanisms' that may be developed by individuals in an exaggerated fashion in order to conceal psychological conflicts..


  • Learning the Language of Addiction Counseling free pdfLearning the Language of Addiction Counseling

    The rampant growth of addiction requires counselors to become knowledgeable in the dynamics of addiction. The Third Edition of this book is fully revised to include significant changes in theory and research that have emerged over the past five years..


  • Borderline Personality Disorder For Dummies free pdfBorderline Personality Disorder For Dummies

    A clear and easy guide to the symptoms. causes. and treatments of BPD Borderline personality disorder affects more than 5.4 million people in the United States. The sympathetic and comprehensive information in Borderline Personality Disorder For Dummies helps those diagnosed with BPD get to the root of their condition..


  • Breaking the Addiction to Please free pdfBreaking the Addiction to Please

    Free Book Download. Many people are responsible for taking care of an aging parent, an ailing spouse, or a handicapped child and do so out of love, devotion, or obligation, and many others have careta